well since we are going regional, here's a few you might like:
Japan: PHAIDIA, ALLERGY, 13th MOON
US Mid Westt: THEATRE OF ICE
US East Coast: GARGOYLE SOX, SCARECROW, AURAL EXILE
US West Coast: 45 GRAVE, KOMMUNITY FK, DEEP ENYDE, SCREAMS FOR TINA
Germany: XMAL DEUTSCHLAND
Ireland: VIRGIN PRUNES
just to name a few, thought it'd be a fun geography lesson
Radio Scarlet, Tragic Black, Chants of Maldoror, The last days of jesus, Sleeping Children, the shallow grave, phaidia, Corpus Delciti, 13 bats, antiworld, scarlet's remains, fear cult, radio werewolf, children on stun....
Since yer in Richmond, look around for shows that Lost Tribe are playing. They're really good, kind of like anarcho-punk and goth mixed. I can't stop listening to "Coma" and "Fading Into The Fog". There's also Crimson Scarlet, Anasazi, Bellicose Minds, Deathcharge, Belgrado, Spectres, Alaric, The Dark, the Evil Speaks, Super-Heroines and the singer Eva O's solo stuff.....
It seems like a lot of anarcho/crusty bands are going goth now, which is actually kinda nice in a way.